Self Check

“Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend's eye.” (Matthew 7:5 NLT)

Have you ever smelled something bad, scrunched your nose, and then, immediately wondered if you were the source of the malodor?

When I encounter something offensive, there is a pattern to my reactions and thoughts: My initial response is one of distaste followed by an urge to get as far away from the situation as possible. However, I have learned to check myself before I separate myself from the problem. Oftentimes I find that I have slightly different shades of the same issue that I find offensive in others. It is difficult to be objective when you are part of the problem. I’m never sure if I am responding appropriately to the situation. Is it better to avoid further conflict or roll up my sleeves and get even more involved?

Here is a real life example: I received some harsh criticism recently. Naturally, this offensive attack triggered a defensive reaction. However, I knew that there were lessons to be learned here. Thus, I stayed in the discomfort and evaluated myself: How have I contributed to this problem? What traits do I have in common with this offender? What changes do I need to make in my behavior? How can I respond with grace, even in the midst of pain?

Most of us are blind to our own flaws. Every time something offends us, we have an opportunity to check ourselves--to see if we have similar faults. This self evaluation allows us to respond in a better way. Once we are aware of our own darkness, we become less critical of others. Instead of lashing out, we are more likely to extend grace.  And we know that grace elicits more and more grace...

Lord, help us to practice aggressive forgiveness. May we recognize our own faults and change our behavior.  May Your grace fill us and cover us.