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Showing posts with label ego. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ego. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Mental Deflation

Inflation and deflation are predictable signs of an unhealthy economy.  The value of a country’s currency may go up or down due to instability in its government, heavy debt, fluctuating exchange rates, and changes in investor expectations.

When our sense of worth is tied to external circumstances and societal expectations, we become vulnerable to a similar crisis of identity. One day we feel inflated; the next day we feel deflated. One day we feel like what we have to offer the world is valuable; the next day our whole existence seems meaningless. As our self-image fluctuates, we become unstable and ineffective--unsure of ourselves and unreliable to others.

How can we avoid this cycle of mental inflation/deflation?

Our sense of worth has to come from something less fickle than meeting expectations--whether they are our own or from others. Instead, our identity has to be based on solid trust in God.  Although I know this in theory, I have not been able to implement this consistently in my life. My emotions continue to fluctuate based on my perceptions and circumstances.

Lord, I pray that You will help us to be stable. Grant us the ability to trust you. Even though You don’t make everything work out according to our expectations, You never abandon us. Vulnerability merely presses us closer to You. As our egos deflate, may our bond with You become more and more secure.

Monday, February 10, 2014

Ego-Boosting Gifts

 “A flattering neighbor is up to no good; he’s probably planning to take advantage of you.” (Proverbs 29:5 MSG)
A few months ago, I took the entrance exam to apply for MBA school. In the process of studying for it, I realized that I don’t really fit the typical MBA profile; I’m just not that profit-motivated.
This week, I got a package in the mail. A big box with a stainless steel coffee cup embossed with the name of the Business School, a bag of gourmet coffee, a personal note urging me to apply to their program, and a waiver for the application fee. (The box was twice as big as it needed to be for the contents; it was mostly filled with black shredded streamers.)
I have to admit--I was flattered. I haven't had somebody 'woo' me in a few decades.
Maybe I was mistaken; maybe I am a good fit for this after all. It sure would impress others. Plus this school WANTs me...I decided to take another look at their website. Nope, it still didn’t feel like it would be a good fit.
Then it dawned on me that being a school of business, they probably had several students working on 'marketing' for the school. They probably sent this stuff out to every person that had a decent score on the entrance exam. Colleges make a great deal of money from their graduate schools. Sending out a $20 box of merchandise for a possible return of around $30,000 is a good marketing strategy--and I almost fell for it.
I will hang on to the cup—hopefully it will serve as a reminder of how I almost sold my soul for silver? (Technically stainless steel, but 'silver' works better for this analogy.)
Lessons learned: Temptations usually come in seductive, ego-boosting packages. Subtle flattery can be an alluring trap. When someone strokes your ego, there might be an underlying agenda.