When
planting a grove of trees, experts recommend spacing them close enough together
that the canopies will mesh in maturity. It’s okay for the branches to touch
each other, as long as each tree has enough space to grow.
Relationships
need the right amount of space too—enough space for us to grow, but not so much
that we grow apart.
How
much space is needed for ideal growth is dependent on one’s emotional makeup
and stage of life. Introverts seem to require more space than extroverts.
Couples tend to prefer more closeness than adult siblings. Teens are more
distant than toddlers. The right amount of space allows enough room for
individual growth, while still remaining close enough to buffer against strong
wind and storms.
“Let
there be spaces in your togetherness…Stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress
grow not in each other's shadow.”( Kahlil Gibran—Sufi poet)
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