Receiving Service

‘“No,” Peter protested, “you will never ever wash my feet!”’ (John 13:8 NLT)

One of my friends recently broke her arm. Her arm has been in a cast for weeks. Her loved ones have been helping her with personal tasks that she cannot manage on her own. She is usually very independent and physically active. Receiving help from others has been particularly challenging for her.

When Jesus offered to wash the feet of the disciples, Peter protested. He did not think it was appropriate for The Teacher to serve the disciples. To put this scenario in modern day terms, it would be like your boss giving you a pedicure. Most of us would have a hard time allowing even our friends to touch our feet.

I am one of those people who would rather give than receive. This sounds virtuous, but it’s actually more about pride and power than generosity. Obviously, washing someone’s feet is an act of submission, but accepting service from others also requires humility. If you, like me, have difficulty accepting help from others, humble yourself and practice receiving for a change. Here are a few practices I have incorporated into my life:

--When someone gives you something, be grateful. Don’t try to immediately think of ways to pay them back so you don’t feel indebted.

--Ask for favors when you need them.

--Admit neediness, ignorance, and weakness.

“Until we can receive with an open heart, we're never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.” (Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection)