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Friday, May 24, 2013

Narcissism

“Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.” (www.mayoclinic.com)

I admit that I have some narcissistic tendencies, although I try my best to hide it under self-deprecating humor. I’ve been reading up on narcissism lately. I’ve been researching the causes, symptoms and treatments for this disorder. I do think that some of it must be genetic and cultural since I have several family members who exhibit similar symptoms. I think certain cultures and families encourage humility, empathy, and selflessness more than others.

The following messages have been imprinted into me: ‘Take care of yourself, your family, your home. Take pride in your accomplishments, your looks--the way you present yourself to the world. You are blessed with success because of your hard work and your talents. You are the master of your own destiny.’

Notice how these messages are reinforcing my own sense of self importance.

Fortunately, I became aware of my illness a while back and have been in recovery since then. I have made an attempt to surround myself with humble, selfless people—hoping they will have an influence on me. I have learned that I’m not better than anyone else, perhaps better off than a few. Every difficult experience has medicinal value as well, depending on how I react to these crises. Sometimes I react with anger, frustration, and self-pity—which causes a relapse into self-absorption. Other times I am made aware of how blessed I am despite my circumstances, how my suffering is minuscule compared to others, and how I will grow in strength and spirit because of these challenges.

The best treatment for narcissism is awareness—the realization that God is the center of the universe—not you. Everything and everyone revolves around Him and His purposes. He is in control. He is the Master of our destinies.

“For in him we live and move and exist.” (Acts 17:28 NLT)

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