Sidekick Spouse

My husband is in a profession that people tend to respect. I, on the other hand, am a home-maker/housewife. When we meet new people, they often size us up and dismiss me as immaterial. I’ve gotten used to this. One of us has to take the lesser role in our partnership, and it might as well be me. Moreover, I’ve come to realize that there are some benefits to being considered the sidekick spouse.

I rarely have people trying to befriend me expecting something in return. Most of my friends are truly genuine and are interested in me and not in any perceived power, influence, or wealth that I possess. By flying under the radar, I am also able to gauge people better. I can spot those who are manipulative, profit-motivated, and dishonest. Most people don’t put much effort towards trying to impress me.

Sometimes I feel like an undercover superhero—like Wonder Woman, with her costume underneath her secretarial clothes—my powers and skills are hidden from strangers. This allows me to observe others unobtrusively, function without recognition, and serve anonymously.

 

I’m not saying that I’m totally comfortable with being incognito all the time. Some days, I feel like revealing my true identity to everyone—to stop being inconspicuous--to  be recognized and considered worthy. But if I followed this urge, I would diminish my power and effectiveness. So I shall continue to wear my Wonder Woman t-shirt underneath my clothes…most days!