Self-care vs. Self-indulgence

“Dear friend, I hope all is well with you and that you are as healthy in body as you are strong in spirit.” (3 John 1:2 NLT)

Is there a difference between self-care and self-indulgence?

Self-indulgence is eating candy, while self-care is eating a salad.

Self-indulgence is spending money you don’t have on things you don’t need, while self-care is paying off debts, so that you can sleep peacefully.

Self-indulgence is surrounding yourself with fake people who tell you what you want to hear, while self-care is spending time with people who make you a better person.

Self-indulgence feels good as you are doing it, but it is not always beneficial in the long run. There is nothing wrong with occasional indulgences, but it’s difficult to know when you’ve slipped into excess. It’s like trying to decide if you are sober enough to drive after you’re drunk. You can’t depend on your own judgment when it is already impaired. Self-indulgence can be thrilling or mind-numbing. It can be compulsive and sometimes destructive.  In contrast, self-care is good for you. It may not always feel pleasurable at the moment, but it doesn’t have to feel depriving either.  Self-care nurtures your body, mind, and spirit. It is intentional and mindful and often requires some planning. It is never harmful--to yourself or anyone else.  In essence, self-care nourishes your value and worth. It cultivates health in body, strength in spirit, and wellness in soul.