Wake of Destruction

“Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.” (Proverbs 27:6 NLT)

Any form of criticism, whether constructive or not, can be difficult to stomach. However, it is better to receive helpful insights from a sincere friend than empty flattery from someone who is trying to manipulate you.

How can you tell if an individual is harmful or not? Look at their past encounters. Some people leave a wake of destruction everywhere they go. These people remind me of a weed killer I use called Roundup herbicide. I spray it only in areas where I want nothing to grow. The results are not immediate, but in a few days, all the plants that were sprayed turn yellow, wilt, and die. Similarly, insincere individuals spray flattery and pretense, telling everyone what they want to hear as they pass by. Their words, their attention, their gifts--are calculated. Those who intend to take advantage of others will use every weapon at their disposal--fawning and cajolery at first, followed  by  whining and insults if they don’t get their way. Everything they do is meant to benefit themselves. It is only a matter of time before their poison takes effect, destroying everyone in its path.

Sincere friends, on the other hand, are like soaker hoses--unassuming, porous, and constantly nurturing. They cultivate growth wherever they go. Their generous spirits empower others to flourish. Being around them inspires us to be better human beings.

“Sincerity makes the very least person to be of more value than the most talented hypocrite.” (Charles Spurgeon)