“If someone who promotes peace is there, your peace will rest on them; if not, it will return to you.” (Luke 10:6 NIV)
My husband and I used to go fishing at our neighborhood pond every summer. We would sit in companionable silence, enjoying the peace and stillness. Then, one summer, we had some houseguests who wanted to fish with us. They believed that every activity, including fishing, required a running commentary. They made everything into a competition--who could skip rocks better; who could cast farther; who caught the biggest fish? They thought our way of doing things was too boring. We thought their way of doing things was annoying. After that summer, fishing at the pond never felt the same. However, the experience was not a complete waste. I learned a few things about how to deal with those who thrive on theatrics:
-Don’t participate.
-Don’t give them an audience.
-Have firm boundaries.
-Distance yourself.
There are those who promote peace, and then there are others who block it at every turn. Agitators feel energized by drama. They are bored by tranquility. Even if you show them the way of peace and contentment, they will not accept it. They would rather have attention and admiration than serenity. They will suck anyone who is not firmly anchored into their egocentric vortex of turmoil. You cannot change them, but you can change the way you respond to them. You can take back your peace by refusing to participate or engage in the drama.
Yes you can. Everyone needs to continually tell their subconscious that life means to understand completely that we always have a choice as to how we react towards a situation. And, if you are angry, let yourself be agree to experience the emotion and release it. Let it go and be thankful you can experience this emotion. Then make sure to invite the wanted peace and happiness only you know for your mind. But, do not deny the fact you are angry to yourself. Everyone doesn't need to know, but you do have to be honest with yourself. If it is time to walk away from the situation, do it. You were created to be the most authentic you that God put you on Earth for.
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