“Selfishness
is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes
to live.” (Oscar Wilde)
I
wish to live a simple, minimalist, quiet, peaceful life. I would like to spend
my days tending to my family, friends, and home. This way of life is not
selfish, unless it involves asking someone else to compromise how they wish to
live.
As
long as our dreams don’t involve other people, we can unselfishly pursue them.
Yet, our idealized visions are often enmeshed with the dreams of others…and
untangling these codependent dreams is arduous.
When
I am crocheting, I spend almost as much time disentangling yarn as I do on my
creation. When I’m working on multiple projects, I try to keep each skein of
yarn separate, or else it becomes a huge mess. It’s hard enough to unsnarl the
knots that seem to form in every skein, but multiple unraveled rolls in the
same bag are just a recipe for disaster.
Similarly,
I try to keep my dreams independent. If the fulfillment of my vision involves
others having to sacrifice their vision, or vice versa, then it’s sure to
become a big mess. Each of us has our own projects to weave, so it’s best to
keep our skeins independent.
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