Freudenfreude

 “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” (Romans 12:15 NIV)

 

Freudenfreude is the German word for finding joy in other people’s success. 

It is the opposite of schadenfreude--finding joy in the misfortune of others. 

 

Our instinctive reaction to the joys and sorrows of others can be informative. It shows our genuine feelings and reveals the true nature of our relationships. Empathy leads to freudenfreude. When a loved one is experiencing joy, we naturally feel joy. When they are sad, we feel sad. Schadenfreude is a sign of antipathy. We tend to feel a secret glee in others’ misfortunes when we dislike them or feel competitive towards them. 

 

When we share each other’s happiness, sorrows, and hardships, we become invested emotionally. We are more likely to reveal vulnerability to those whom we trust. Trust is built on consistent deposits of attentive listening, empathy, and kindness. This results in empathetic relationships filled with mutual respect, acceptance, and understanding.