Craydar

“When you see crazy coming, cross the street.” (Iyanla Vanzant)

Some people can sense craziness within the first encounter with someone. They sense the underlying instability and steer clear. Others may sense that something seems a bit off, but they ignore these instincts and stick around. Initially, unstable individuals can seem entertaining, laid back, spontaneous, and easily fixable.

Craydar is an internal radar that detects craziness  as soon as it approaches. (Word origin--from  cray cray--meaning crazy to the second power.) Some people have a built-in craydar. As soon as they sense a high level of craziness coming, they try to get away from it. They don’t stick around and get sucked up into the vortex of drama, chaos, and instability.

If you don’t have a good craydar, it can be developed. Think back on previous relationships that, in hindsight, were obvious lapses in judgment. There were signs that the cracks ran deep and you might get trapped in them. But you made excuses to hang around. Learn from these prior experiences--recognize early warning signs of deep instability that is beyond your ability to repair. Cross the street; walk in the opposite direction; steer clear.

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