Destructive Criticism

According to the dictionary, constructive criticism is advice or criticism that is useful and intended to help or improve something.

Most critics will argue that their intentions are to help and improve the situation, but in my experience, criticism is more often destructive than constructive.
  
Destructive criticism is worse than useless--it is downright harmful. It destroys self-esteem, weakens marriages, and tears apart relationships. Some critical people believe that it makes them feel better to air their grievances about others, even though they can’t change them.

“Our present time is indeed a criticizing and critical time. Our complaints are like arrows shot up into the air at no target: and with no purpose they only fall back upon our own heads and destroy ourselves.” ~William Temple

How many times have you received criticism that compelled you to change? Personal change is rarely induced by the opinion of others, but because of internal convictions. There are a few people who regularly invest in my life and have gained my respect. They are the only ones who have the power to motivate me to change.

Next time you feel the need to offer constructive criticism, ask yourself if this is likely to promote change or just cause more damage.